February 24, 2011

Rationalizing an uninterested man

The Chart explains the mysterious phenomenon of a man who is not interested in sex.  Let me save you some time.  He’s bored and/or not turned on by what is in front of him.

In fairness, one of the possible culprits listed (biological, emotional, relationship, porn) is actually unrelated to the woman he’s with.  I can see medical problems getting in the way of sex.  The rest are some variation of she’s just not doing it for me tonight.

Here’s my breakdown of the non-biological rationalizations:

Emotional: A guy’s sex drive is often closely tied to his self-esteem
You know what’s great for that?  Sex with a hot new partner.
Relationship: Feelings like anger, resentment, and general dissatisfaction can play havoc… but these issues don’t necessarily sink his libido.
Read: he’s still turned on, just not by you.
Porn: …men are masturbating 50 to 500 percent more than they would normally without Internet porn
Nice fun fact.  So I guess he does want sex after all.  Imagine that!