Apparently, there are 40 million Americans stuck in sexless marriages.
That’s from The Chart’s article on "getting back in sexual sync", also known as spicing things up a bit. Here's the problem:
Generally, at the start of a relationship, the thrill of infatuation keeps us sexually motivated - the whole “can’t keep your hands off of each other” phase - but once we settle into a sense of routine, gaps in libido that may have previously been masked become revealed.
Imagine that. I have a stupid question: why exactly do I want to settle into this routine to begin with?
To me it’s pretty clear what the problem is: boredom. Even sex isn’t all that much fun when it’s the same thing over and over again, with no possible end to the monotony it sight. Yet, as we’ve seen before, The Chart attempts to rationalize sexual disinterest with a list of “reasons” that are all basically synonyms for I’m not really that turned on by you. They include:
– Stress, depression, and anxiety
– Age, health, and medical treatment
– Lifestyle issues such as sleep, exercise, nutrition, and tobacco and alcohol consumption
– Relationship boredom
– Diminishing sexual attraction to one’s partner
– Relationship issues and anger
– Lack of sexual enjoyment during partner sex
– Milestones such as having kids that often test a relationship
– Lack of prioritization of sex
Then the article goes into a bunch of ways you can, you know, communicate and eventually, if you're lucky, have sex. Thanks doc. Here’s my advice: find something that turns you on and do it.
