Boy, I can’t wait until the day I find that special someone, finally decide to settle down, and enjoy a lifetime of this:
You've tried marriage therapy. You've tried date night. You've tried attitude adjustment, and tricking yourself into ignoring the discontent
...but nothing works.
You're in the group of "low-conflict," amiable but less than fulfilling marriages. Marriage researchers estimate that they contribute the lion's share to divorce court each year -- anywhere from 55% to 65%.
So consider yourself lucky. You don’t have a horrible life, just a mind-numbingly boring one. But the silver lining is that more people are starting to realize how ridiculous marriage is:
Maybe the problem is not you. Maybe it's not your spouse. Maybe it's marriage, and how we "do" marriage that's the issue. There are thousands of books to tell you how to fit yourself, the square peg of a discontented spouse, into the round hole of the institution of marriage. But there are few if any that flip the question, and consider how to change marriage so that it fits us.
That’s the most intelligent thing I've read on marriage in a while. So imagine the double-take I did when I saw the proposed laughable panacea. It seems all you have to do is… wait for it… use separate bedrooms! Yeah, I’m sure that will do the trick.
And people wonder why I wouldn't want to get married.
